louis vuitton replica under $100 replica louis vuitton bags Christian Louboutin Black Bianca Pumps replica diaper bag coach replica scribble hamptons hobo replica handbags by rudy coach replica watched designer discount knock off fake cartier watches discounted replica chanel bags louis vuitton replica under $100 replica nike shoes l boots Authentic Fendi Replica dolce and gabbana replica bags designer accessories love charity cartier bracelet replica Anne Klein Handbags Ferragamo Replica l a m b handbags sale gucci group watches secaucus replica juicy handbags replica dior bags designer bags for sale which designer handbag replica chanel glasses hermes picotin replica Moncler Himalaya Down Jacket White rafe handbags wholesale designer perfume Louis Vuitton Monogram Multicolor Zippy Wallet chanel ceramic watches replica carly coach chanel replica handbags made in china donna sharp handbags oversized handbags wholesale only Jimmy Choo Dark Blue Bardia Bag make up bags wholesale chanel handbags online replica handbags gucci horseback identify model of cartier watch handbag warehouse replica handbags in ohio knockoff or replica handbags handbags online australia replica coach dog Prada And Jp Tods Handbags chanel jewels replica designer backpack purses replica givenchy nightingale bag free replica louis vuitton handbag information etienne aigner handbags replica brandnames handbags replica burberry designer passport cover designer travel bags wedge cd clock radio replica louis vuitton mens hats cheap designer replica handbags funky designer replica purses replica coach umbrellas replica cartier roadster watch cartier watches square replica designer handbags uk replica louis vuitton backpacks men cartier watch authorized retailer louis vuittion replica handbags replica louis vuitton never full replica bags uk shih handbags Handbags Gucci cartier ladies watch used cartier watches charlotte handbags louis vutton replica Louis Vuitton Damier Geant Canvas Black Citadin exact replica handbag fendi replica eye wear Gucci Black Mid Top Sneakers louis vuitton shoes replica lv handbags and lugage replica currency paper money designer replica handbags knockoffs replica prada sun glasses Christian Louboutin Black Petal Crepe Sandals cartier watch norfolk virginia louis vuitton monogram replica scarf Louis Vuitton Suhali Leather Black Briefcase replica vera bradley purses Herve Leger Grey V-neck Bandage Dress chanel watches j12 ebay how to tell louis vuitton replica cheap wholesale replica handbags import handbags from china colibri personalized money clips watches trendy bags replica louis vuitton cosmetic bag replica louis vuitton handbag wholesale replica gucci fabric for sale fendi registered watches vintage cartier watch vintage cartier watch fobs coach replica purses boutique ladies discount burberry watches designer handbags new york replica designer purse wholesale clothing accessories mary frances handbags jimmy choo rikki bag replica cheap designer diaper bags 1941 cartier watches replica salvatore ferragamo civil war money replica kellogg cereal swiss replica cartier watches buxton handbags vani designer replica handbags Summer Replica chanel replica 2009 handbag cartier watch replica paypal replica handbags ferragamo name brand clothing Knock Off Handbags Wholesale Yves Saint Laurent Classic High Heel Slingbacks aviatrix gucci replica clothing wholesale designer handbag replica balenciaga replica bags the sak handbags making handbags judith leiber replica handbags designer coach replica handbags cartier watch old version of quartz replica chanel boots riverside ca replica purses leather laptop handbags emilie m handbags replica chanel earrings china men s gucci watches replica hand bags chanel wholesale coach handbags at a discount Anya Hindmarch Green RoHS Bag discount designer fashion discount chanel watches aaa replica gucci handbags replica fashion handbags and accessory ladies handbags sale hermes watch h watches 18k gold cartier tank watch movement florida outlet store designer handbags ferragamo handbags replica coach gym bags replica louis vuitton monogramouflage handbag knock off coach handbags for cheap Jewelry And Handbags Wholesale Shopping d and b replica handbags designer replica jeans wholesale handbags dropship Gucci Camel Tote ergonomic handbags replica tignanello handbags juicy couture replica handbags miu miu handbag sale Wholesale Fabric Replica high fashion bags replica designer handbags purses basic replica handbags designer purse outlet replica fake designer handbags purses prada replica sunglasses china floral print handbag gucci replica knockoff Louis Vuitton Monogram Canvas Neverfull MM clock ipod holder chanel replica boots Chanel Grey Crocodile Handbag Wholesale Supplies For Handbags cheap replica handbags wholesale cartier watches cheap japanese fashion handbags designer handbags a-z coach kristin handbag replica prada replica designer handbags 100 replica purses pink designer handbags Knockoffs Handbags sell rolex for money pgh designer handbags from china Versace Delicate Pink Venita Bow Satchel Wholesale Leather Replica Handbags High Quality Replica designer replica purses cod Burberry Replica Handbags replica chanel watch handbags shoes louis vuitton replica accessory cheap designer bags uk Designer Handbags At Discount pink coach hobo handbags wholesale coach replica keychains chanel tote replica vintage bags handbags from paraguay Gucci Apricot & Red Messenger Bag wholesale gucci replica backpack dropshipping Moncler Quilted Body Warmer Orange manufacturer of replica bags host a replica purse party ohio time is money antique clock burberry designer handbag handbag replica black replica chanel puses cheap fashion handbag replica gucci handbags Louis Vuitton Taiga Leather Brown Andrei Grizzli designer handbag purses handbags dior replica Jimmy Choo Purple Martha Clutch cartier alarm clock replica burberry replica handbags distributors louis vuitton replica purses soprano handbags replica gurkha bags wholesale replica coach purses replica porsche design watches sequins beaded handbags designer outlet handbags only qingdao replica bags t shirt manufacturers china michael kors handbags vegan handbags discount purses louis vuitton replica sneakers turkey Chanel Handbags faith handbags australia knockoff douney and bourke handbags louis vuitton shoes for men leather organizer handbags Fossil Handbags replica beijo handbags at wholesale excelsior clock pump ram Replica Chanel Replica wholesale authentic designer handbags replica lamb handbags pocket books YSL Red Majorelle Handbag clock ipod holder wholesale beads china cartier mystery clock for sale Wholesale Fashion Handbags Fake Designer Handbags Wholesale coach shoe replica cartier watch washington dc thomas wylde replica bags replica guicci bags Bally Patent Coffee Jana Tote replica valentino braided bag chanel replica hair barrets gucci quality replica handbags Yves Saint Laurent Red Biarritz Sandals miu miu handbag sunglasses replica handbags fendi gucci buy replica calfskin lambskin handbags direct replica gucci hobo pictures Marni Beige Snakeskin Shoulder Bag replica jelly kelly handbags cheap discounted authentic replica designer handbags Louis Vuitton Damier Geant Canvas Black Loup replica designer handbags cheap buy wholesale YSL Golden Crocodile Grain Muse Bag Lancel Camel Premier Flirt YSL Blue Snakeskin Muse Bag replica handbags on sale replica coach bracelets replica chanel scarf replica louis vuitton designer outlet online handbags replica designer handbag dior best watches second hand designer handbags cheap replica designer handbags watches cartier 21 watch strap Jimmy Choo Pink Snake Lohla Bag replica coach handbags knockoff gold replica purse liz claiborne handbags chanel black ceramic watches jeep wrangler air bag clock spring large designer handbags guchy handbags coach handbags corporate Versace Delicate Pink Venita Bow Satchel chanel replica black and white pearls replica chanel clothing replica yves saint laurent bag gucci replica backpacks dooney Balenciaga Deep Coffee Giant Weekender marni handbags Mulberry Grey Hobo replica handbag review cartier replica eyeglasses chanel embossed replica cartier replica mens rings replica handbags china fake replica knockoff imitation handbags channel replica purses clothes accessories messenger bags handbags outlet in mississippi aaa replica designer knockoff handbag woven bag painted handbags brighton replica purse Handbags Coach Leather Rugby chanel brand handbags replica yves saint laurent sunglasses leather travel bags louis vuitton replica luggage Designer Replica Wholesale guchy handbags best replica designer handbags Discounted Gucci Handbags replica louis vuitton shoes replica louis vuitton and gucci handbags cartier watch battery rent designer handbags replica jimmy choo ramona xl purse replica designer Louis Vuitton Damier Graphite Rem replica watches jewelry iwc cartier omega jimmy choo shoes replica prada nappa antique hobo replica burberry replica purses replica coach 2006 scribble handbags susan gail handbags Miu Miu Beige Crocodile Wallet wholesale replica shoes rolex cartier buy handbags replica designer wallets replica fashion hand bags cartier bagnoire watches biasa handbags Herve Leger Yellow Sleeveless Dress giraffe replica handbags best replica cartier watches replica coach jewelry discount designer handbags uk dkny watches for sale mail order cartier knockoff watches burberry replica watch chinese bags wholesale replica handbags in china replica coach designer handbags replica fendi bag leather coach replica discount cole haan handbags prada handbags louis vuitton luggage replica wholesale louis vuitton wapity replica louis vuitton replica imitation replica designer purse how to legally sell replica handbags designer handbags replicas Jp Tods Replica cartier clock collection Chanel Black Quilted Shoulder Bag replica pack louis vuitton fossel handbags chanel replica wholesale jewelry chloe replica handbag burberry watches bloomingdale armani exchange watches replica handbags of coach replica handbags and accessories evening handbags Moncler Branson Navy Jacket black wholesale handbags in los angeles california chanel camelia watch replica fashion watches chanel knockoff handbags organza bags replica dior chanel jel ery Balenciaga Black Covered Giant Money wholesale clothing suppliers Jimmy Choo Frost Mirrored Sandals Wholesale Novelty Handbags brighton replica nikki hobo designer handbag imitation quality replica sell used fendi watches fabric tote bags vintage lizard skin handbags Bottega Veneta Black Intrecciato Stretch Knot good replica purse cheap dooney and bourke replica handbags Loewe Yellow Custom Hobo clutch handbags replica christian dior sun glasses miu miu handbag sale Mulberry Bronze Alexa Bag handbag wallet bag denim louis replica vuitton branded handbags Louis Vuitton Monogram Canvas Sophie Pouchette designer handbags shoes replica handbags website in arabic cartier watch washington dc discounted designer handbags wholesale leather bags Prada And Handbags replica judith leiber bags pearl designs handbags Christian Louboutin Pink Carnaval Pumps Prada Mustard Sneakers wholesale beads china antic cartier watch for sale chanel watches on sale cartier watch worn by anna wintour coach replica michigan wholesale replica handbag supplier wholesale zebra handbags replica cartier moon swiss cartier replica purse accessories cartier womens wrist watches replica chanel scarf Coach Replica Wholesale dooney bourke inspired handbags chanel high quality handbags replica cartier americaine watch oakley handbags shotgun replica stage coach Giuseppe Zanotti Beige Zipped Ankle Boots quilted keeper handbags replica louis vuitton handbags purses wholesale nfl jerseys second hand cartier watches louis vuitton replica luggage Christian louboutin Camouflage Pigalle Pumps cheap replica louis vuitton watches Christian Louboutin Black Hyper Prive Slingbacks online shopping handbags 7 star replica handbag in hongkong mary frances replica handbags Mulberry Bronze Daria Clutch manufacturer of replica handbag designer tote replica fiore handbags Chanel Beige Camellia Slippers replica cartier tank francaise watch designer replica replica handbag manufacturers wholesale imports replica coach poppy handbags louis vuitton bucket bag fake replica handbags aigner chinese wholesalers handbags cool mens handbags replica designer handbags purses louis vuitton fiorelli handbags christian dior watches brands designer replica gucci for dog fendi b bag replica discount replica purses loius vuitton handbags replica system clock changes at boot up armani emporio watches plastic bag supplier leather backpack wholesale gym bags african handbags Chanel Jean Ballerina Flats designer replica watches replica handbag review cartier tank solo watch unique handbags western handbags Tapestry Handbags replica burberry wallets bags kellogg civil war money replica replica coach 10310 burberry handbags Prada Brown Canvas Zipped Wallet clearance handbags Anya Hindmarch Black Golden Clutch suede handbag rolex cartier message board forum replica handbags wholesale Brand Name Handbags chanel 1113 replica grade replica handbags best replica bags wholesale replica louis vuitton handbags used cartier tank watches designer replica handbag dealers Hermes Orange Hobo christian dior handbags replica designer purses have lead gucci twirl watches barbados paypal replica bags pre-owned cartier santos watches designer handbag replicas brighten handbags wholesale purses for resale chanel logo earrings replica designer handbag sale cartier watch swiss made watches band strap replacement cartier pasha replica prada fairy bag cartier santos dumont watch mens cheap replica designers handbags replica louis vuitton cell phone case mens shoulder bags circ info holder rolex Emporio Armani Black Sneakers replica hermes kelly wallet Dolce & Gabbana Grey Velcro Trainers designer replica handbags 5 star cartier tank watch for women replica handbags worth it guitars made in china replica juicy purse paypal dooney and burke handbags for less silver handbags Salvatore Ferragamo Violet Varina Ballet Shoes Designer Replica Replica Aaa Mirror Image replica fiore handbags gucci watches for men Fossil Replica giraffe handbags wholesale replica gucci ladies shoulder bags asian importer for replica handbags Louis Vuitton Monogram Idylle Croisette Speedy 30 discount sunglasses replica messenger laptop computer bags cartier watches at heathrow replica louis vuitton vernis clock windsor pump straw handbags cheap handbag wholesale wholesale designer replica sunglasses Herve Leger Blue Scoopneck Tank Dress cartier bakelite tank money clip watch replica chanel shirt handbag louis replica vuitton wholesalel replica bitsy bags burberry handbags from nordstoms replica christian louboutin wholesalers in australia Handbags Louie Vuitton replica christian dior sun glasses handbags for 20.00 or under fashion accessory manufacturer designer handbags hong kong handbags for cheap Hermes Green Hobo Burberry Black Check Low Top Trainers discount luggage coach replica watches uk designer handbags best louis vuitton replica replica handbags handbags swiss replica cartier watches Designer Replica Louis Vuitton knock off chanel handbags replica fendi coach purses 30.00 coach purse replica under 20 replica louis vuitton miroir bag louis vuitton replica handbag under 60.00 promotional bags louis vuitton knockoff handbags jimmy choo handbags replica handbags pink fashion handbags 2009 cartier replica bags new spring replica purses handbags bags and purses gucci hysteria python replica Chloe Beige Canvas Handbag Salvatore Ferragamo Purple Varina Ballet Shoes brogan replica shoes replica designer handbags under $30 replica ruby slippers chinese wholesalers Bottega Veneta Black Pocket Bag chanel fake bag replica replica lv handbags grade aaa louis vuitton cup watches country road handbags wholesale tattoo handbags Hermes Orange Wallet Hermes Coffee Shoulder Bag louis vuitton replica cherry hybrid handbags antique handbags australia sydney replica winter louis vuitton shawl replica fendi coach purses replica coach signature pet carrier 60126 clock movement holder isabella adams handbags and wallets ysl replica bag manufacturer chanel replica glasses with cc monogram 2009 replica designer bags Christian Dior Coffee Woven Handbag bargain designer purses wallet cheap tote bags wholesale Alexander McQueen Grey Skull Booties replica coach gucci handbag handbags designer replica Replica And Purse used bags discount rosetti handbags valentine clock and money printable worksheets wallets china burberry nova check replica replica chanel jewlery gucci replica duffel bags manhattan pm replica handbag replica handbags wholesale gucci america versus my replica handbag jimmy choo malena tote replica replica logo signed coach purses replica gucci fabric for sale Jimmy Choo Black Leopard Mandah Bag copyright laws replica bags prada phone lock floating clock replica tod handbags replica chanel 8101 replica knockoff handbags replica bags in chicago cartier desk clock cartier roadster automatic watch Fendi Black Monogram Handbag Christian Louboutin Scarlet Anemone Pumps cartier mystery clock for sale wholesale computers china Designer Handbags Knock Off Wholesale watches gucci replica handbags longchamp wholesale cosmetics cartier divan watch Alexander McQueen Pink Heart Peep Toe Pumps Miu Miu Coffee Suede Coffer Bag Coach Leather Handbags who sells ugg handbags gucci replica bags replica fendi coach purses cheap designer purse replica replica louis vuitton handbags discount cheap bags online Chanel Red Hobo ladies coach watches bag factory cartier watches replicas replica chanel cambon tote Vintage Handbags wholesale designer clothing fashion and trendy handbags china import export replica designer bag for only 10 dkny watches men chromometer Discount Replica Marilyn Monroe Handbags replica chanel keychain burberry replica watch handbag suppliers spring 2004 replica handbags replica chloe diamante tous handbags cartier tank style watch cartier watch woman vintage clock handbag gucci replica leather messenger bag aaa coach replica handbags wholesale replica handbags tommy hilfiger handbags Fendi Pink Woven Zucca Spy Bag replica kate spade handbags cheap clutches cartier dress watch best replica handbag Louis Vuitton Handbags Wholesale tool manufacturer china opus cartier tank vintage watch replica valentino handbags wholesale purses and handbags clothing brands replica louis vuitton agenda designer replica bags cheap designer replica handbags replica designer purse bag chanel replica handbag with serial number wholesale boutique handbags sharif handbags Jp Tods Replica judith leiber handbags Versace Purple Shopping Bag wholesale unique handbags pictures used gucci watches becker coin purses replica

Archive for October, 2008

Gossip Part II: The Ethics of Gossip

Saturday, October 25th, 2008

Yom Kippur is always an introspective time for me, however lacking I may be in observance. (Most Jews go to services and fast; I generally do one or the other, figuring either way I’ve got my atonement covered.)
 
As I ruminate on my moral failings from the preceding year, I’m always fascinated by how much more inclusive of sin is my religious moral sense than is my secular moral sense: behaviors that I wouldn’t normally think of as wrongdoing still set off my religious alarm as atonement-worthy.
 
Take gossip. During the year, my borderline-unhealthy obsession with ethics and etiquette keep me pretty primed to speech and actions I find objectionable. Still, I generally don’t have any qualms about talking about people behind their backs.
 
I’m of course more comfortable gossiping about people I don’t like than people I do, and I don’t like rumor-mongering or judging people too harshly without thinking deeply about their perspectives and circumstances. But, I think trading insights with friends about other friends and acquaintances is anthropologically interesting, socially bonding (and entertaining), and important for staying apprised of our friends’ emotional states and for strategizing collectively about how to help each other out.
 
At Yom Kippur, though, palpable guilt washes over me. Judaism strictly forbids gossip — in a prohibition called lashon hara — and though my secular ethics alarms aren’t set off by gossip, I’m always sure during atonement that G-d doesn’t want me to be talking about anyone behind their backs.
 
This dissonance raises an interesting point: is it morally okay to gossip? If not, why not?
 

Lying and Our Negative View of Gossip
 
The knee-jerk reaction is to say that, though we all do it all the time, gossip’s a vice we should try to curb — something to make resolutions about come New Year’s. For support of this position, we can see religious proscriptions like lashon hara.
 
The proscription is supported by our sensible distaste for lying, often tied up in gossip that entails propagating rumors we’re not sure are true. We are commanded religiously against bearing false witness; lying ranks as a top-ten sin, showing its select place as a more blameworthy subset of gossip more generally.
 
It’s clear even from a secularly ethical standpoint that slander is blameworthy. One’s good name is an essential part of his social identity — to sully someone’s name without giving him the opportunity to defend himself could be a violation of his sovereignty, just as scarring as a physical violation of his person. Both will cause pain and impair the victim’s ability to function successfully in the world.
 
We’ve institutionalized this idea in the law by requiring that defendants in civil and criminal trials be able to face their accusers (or, as the sixth amendment reads, the right
“to be confronted with the witnesses against him”). And we see it in reality shows every day when Hannah or Sheena demand that if you have something to say about them, you should say it to their face.
 
From an evolutionary standpoint, scientists have highlighted the importance of reputation for group cooperation. From a Times article describing Harvard studies of cooperation:
 
“People who gain a reputation for not cooperating tend to be shunned or punished by other players. Cooperative players get rewarded.”
 
We’ve evolved to help each other out rather than to only fend for ourselves — cooperation is essential to building complex societies; we can achieve more collectively than we ever could each on his own. And when working collectively, we need mechanisms to demonstrate to the community that we will not screw others over for personal gain when given the opportunity. It’s dangerous to have bad things said about you behind your back.

 
The Instrumental Importance of Gossip
 
 So, slandering someone’s reputation, lying about them, or generally charging them with fault without giving them the opportunity for rebuttal is bad — atonement-worthy. But, as I said above, slander is just a small slice of gossip. When my friends and I talk about a third party, we’re not spreading lies — we’re doing analysis. What do we think of this person? Are our judgments just? Why does he behave in a certain way? How should he behave?
 
In a sense, exchanging ideas about a person is the way we determine whether our personal conceptions about him or her hold up to scrutiny. It makes me think of a wonderful Louise Glück poem called “Birthday.” The key stanza reads:

That is the problem of silence:
one cannot test one’s ideas.
Because they are not ideas, they are the truth.

When we don’t share our ideas about people with others, when we keep our conceptions and judgments to ourselves, they are untested — we have to gossip to know whether or not to revise our opinions and to reach better ones.
 
Think of Elizabeth Bennet in Pride and Prejudice. Gossip is instrumental in Elizabeth’s learning more about why Darcy behaves with such stoic coldness, and in her discovering why Wickham’s ostensible charm is not proof of an unblemished character.
 
Think also of Jürgen Habermas’s theory of communicative action. Habermas argues that the public sphere — where we discuss ideas and challenge each other’s ethical and political views — is essential to the maintenance of a successful society, because the testing of one paradigm against others (through communication) is how those paradigms are refined and brought closer to the truth.
 
If I have one opinion about X based on my interactions with her, and my friends A, B, an C have other opinions about X — each, of course, influenced by A, B, and C’s own prejudices and epistemological immodesties — coming together around a coffee shop table and talking about X is how we realize that our individual opinions are not monolithic.
 
Discussing this question earlier today with my good friend Kara, I was struck by a good point she made: usually, when we’re talking about X, we’re not just talking about X — we’re talking about our relationships with X. Whether X is a friend, family member, or significant other, we are implicated in this relationship ourselves. Isn’t it unreasonable to expect us not to openly discuss relationships of which we are a part? Are we violating X’s right to privacy in doing so?

And this begs the question, is talking about X a violation of his or her right to privacy? Or some other right? Let’s say John is talking to his friend Tom about his other friend Mary. Mary overhears and becomes offended — does she have grounding to be? Yes, Mary is being discussed behind her back, but in essence John is seeking advice from Tom about his own life, and naturally his life is bound up in his relationships with people like Mary.
 

 Gossip and Etiquette
 
Let’s step back from ethics. Is it rude to talk about someone, i.e. Mary, behind her back?
 
Etiquette, like religion, is more inclusive of wrongdoing than is a humanist ethics. It’s rude to ask an acquaintance his salary, but it’s not a moral wrong. It might be rude not to send a thank-you note after receiving a gift, but it’s not grounds for sanction.
 
The function of etiquette is indeed to avoid making other people feel uncomfortable. Though we lack a moral obligation to prevent discomfort — such an obligation would be impossible to uphold and would be unfairly contingent on each person’s idiosyncrasies of sensitivity — it’s nice and socially lubricating to prevent discomfort and to show each other respect, thus not asking about salaries and sending thank-you notes.
 
Indeed, etiquette is not about what forks to use — it’s Hippocratic: First do no harm. A gentleman, as Cardinal Newman said, is one who never inflicts pain. And, as Slate’s review of Laura Claridge’s new Emily Post biography reminds us said, Emily Post “often said etiquette had much more to do with ‘instinctive considerations for the feelings of others’ than with using the right fork, and she herself was famous for putting her elbows on the table.”
  
But talking about a friend behind her back doesn’t inflict pain or hurt anyone’s feelings. Indeed, the problem with John being overheard by Mary is not the speech — it’s the being heard. Being aware of being talked about makes Mary uncomfortable. It’s not ungentlemanly to talk about someone behind her back; it’s ungentlemanly to get caught.
 
Yes, it’s unpleasant to think of your friends or girlfriends/boyfriends talking about you behind your back, but can you blame them? Do you want them to leave their own lives unexamined? The unexamined life, we know, is not worth living.
 
Still, it’s a foggy question that leaves us ambivalent. Kathy Griffin says she’s uncomfortable when the subjects of her comedy tell her to say it to their faces. “I was raised right,” she says. “I talk about people behind their back. It’s called manners.” We laugh because we think she’s copping out, but a deeper analysis suggests that maybe she was raised right after all.

Gossip Part I: English Reserve and Gossip as Social Lubricant

Thursday, October 23rd, 2008

The English have an unhealthy obsession with celebrity (and, in their case, royal) gossip that shames even our American fascination with the private lives of Britney, LiLo and Sam, Katie and Tom, Madonna and ARod. TMZ, Page Six, and Perez pale in comparison with the British broadsheets that carry gossip as news — Paris Hilton is no Princess Di. At the same time, though, the English have an uncommon (in our brutish American eyes) preoccupation with politeness and reserve.

There’s a fascinating book called “Watching the English” by anthropologist Kate Fox, a book that in essence is an anthropology of Englishness for the lay reader. It’s a bestseller in England and highly entertaining to American readers who like to laugh at those different from them. (And don’t we all?) I encountered it yesterday while browsing for books, and it got me thinking about the social importance of gossip.

Fox highlights how reserved the English are: at a party, for instance, it’s considered highly inappropriate to go up to a stranger and introduce yourself — names are too intimate for a first encounter. Instead, one must drift into conversation and, at the end, say, “So sorry, I didn’t catch your name?” Indeed, talking about oneself or expecting to hear details about someone else is strictly out-of-bounds.

As a result, neutral “grooming-talk,” as Fox calls it (referencing monkeys that groom each other as a form of social interaction even when grooming is unnecessary), takes center stage in English social life. It’s why conversations about the weather are so central to English interaction; weather is an easy, uncontroversial, shared topic that allows for the kinship of agreement (“Yes, it is cold!”) and thus social lubrication.

Fox points to two possible explanations for the English national obsession with gossip that relate to the phenomenon of English reserve. First, she says that English reserve makes indulging in gossip illicitly thrilling. Second, she says that private information is highly valued because it is generally so scarce.

But, skimming through Fox’s book, I was surprised that she left out the most obvious reason why celebrity and royal gossip is so important to society. It’s not because English reserve makes it illicit or highly valued — it’s because English reserve keeps almost all other possible topics of conversation off the table.

Gossip serves the same purpose as weather talk. Unlike talking about one’s personal life (off limits) or, say, politics and world affairs (too contentious), mentioning the latest tidbit or scandal from the royal family will be familiar to everyone with whom you’re interacting and will let you reach an easy agreement: “Shocking, isn’t it?” “Indeed.”

Americans, too, need common cultural currency with which to interact, so we can start a conversation by saying, “Did you hear that Lindsay and Sam had a big fight on an Acela?” But, importantly, we have fewer problems with crossing social boundaries and engaging in possibly contentious conversation, so we’re just as likely to start a conversation with, “Did you see Sarah Palin on SNL?” even though that path will definitely lead to a political, possibly controversial place.

We’re also content to talk about ourselves. The other day, a cashier asked me what I did for a living. When I said I didn’t have a job, she asked how I paid the rent. Gauche for sure, but not out of the realm of American conversation you’ll encounter every day.

Just walking the streets of New York, my mother makes half-a-dozen new friends every day. This weekend she chatted with the girl behind the counter at the cupcake shop about how business is great but exhausting because she works seven days, well two days here and classes five days a week, yep she’s studying at Manhattan Marymount, etc., then she left the shop and stated chatting with a woman on the street about her beautiful flowers, but they’re heavy, and yes it is hard to find a cab at this hour…

Bottom line: in America, our penchant for celebrity gossip is kept in check because of our readiness to talk about anything from our personal lives to politics. We demand celebrity gossip stories from our news media, but we also demand more contentious news; and our demand for all news is checked by our primary fascination: ourselves.

But no matter the culture, celebrity gossip serves as an essential social lubricant. I can meet someone from across the country who shares none of my political, religious, or social views, but we can still talk about Madonna and ARod.

The Economist Stole My Idea!

Tuesday, October 14th, 2008

Well, not really, but the similarities are uncanny…

From my September 26 post, Climate Change and The Winner’s Curse:

…the research on the rate and reach of climate change, even if it’s all done by good scientists using sound data-collection and analysis, is likely to result in findings that fall along a distribution. But while the truth of the matter is likely found in considering the distribution as a whole, the findings on the ends are going to be the ones that stick out to journal editors as the most interesting to prospective readers….

Let’s say there’s an auction of a good with an objective but unknown value (think fields for oil drilling, not a painting that each prospective buyer will value differently). Each buyer will estimate the value differently. Maybe they’ll each hire someone to professionally survey and appraise the good. The real value is probably around the mean estimate, but it’s the buyer with the high estimate who will buy the good, thinking the others suckers for passing on such a valuable purchase. But that buyer will almost certainly have over-valued the good. In an auction like this, you don’t want to be the winner.

Similarly, science journals are buying the articles that most highly estimate the costs of climate change — but they might be overpaying.

From an article in the current issue of The Economist, Publish and be wrong:

IN ECONOMIC theory the winner’s curse refers to the idea that someone who places the winning bid in an auction may have paid too much. Consider, for example, bids to develop an oil field. Most of the offers are likely to cluster around the true value of the resource, so the highest bidder probably paid too much.

The same thing may be happening in scientific publishing, according to a new analysis. With so many scientific papers chasing so few pages in the most prestigious journals, the winners could be the ones most likely to oversell themselves—to trumpet dramatic or important results that later turn out to be false. This would produce a distorted picture of scientific knowledge, with less dramatic (but more accurate) results either relegated to obscure journals or left unpublished.

More accurate, perhaps, than saying “The Economist Stole My idea!” would be to say “The Economist reported on scientific findings that support ideas I discussed!”

The ABC’s of Web Media

Saturday, October 11th, 2008

Imagine you have ten friends. They all have interesting lives, go on adventures, think deep thoughts. You love to get together with each one and hear everything they have to say.

But then the friends slowly start to change. They realize that it’s expensive and tiring to go on adventures and think deep thoughts.

Let’s say two become story filters. They’ve heard everything that the remaining eight friends are doing, and they tell you the coolest stories and deepest thoughts. You don’t have to talk to those eight people anymore — you can just talk to these two!

But then three more convert. They become commentators. There are five people left still doing stuff; the commentators look at the stories the filters are talking about and reflect on them — snidely or thoughtfully. It’s easier for them to talk about what the OTHER friends are doing than to actually DO stuff themselves.

Indeed, filtering and commentating is so easy that more and more of your friends convert. Five, four, three… now only a fraction of your friends are doing or thinking anything! But, the few things left being done and thought are getting a lot more organization and dissection.

What’ll happen? Eventually, perhaps, there won’t be ANY original adventures or thoughts.

Of course, this is what’s happening with online media.

This week saw the launch of The Daily Beast, Tina Brown’s new web venture. (Which, incidentally, is already having some problems.) The site’s tag-line is “Read This Skip That,” and it’s premise is that it “curates” the web into what is “provocative and essential,” according to managing editor Edward Felsenthal.

The Beast has very little original content, instead offering a “cheat sheet,” which highlights the big stories on the web each day, and a “big fat story” section, which attempts to illuminate all angles of the day’s biggest story with links to a dozen or so links from different sources.

The Daily Beast is just more evidence that, increasingly, the A’s and B’s of the web are outweighing the C’s. Here’s what I mean.

A is for Aggregators:
Aggregators like The Daily Beast or Digg or Real Clear Politics just compile and “curate” the articles on the web and/or organize them in new ways. For instance, Digg is all user-based: readers vote articles up or down, and so the most popular articles are at the top. Real Clear Politics is all editor-based: the website presents the most interesting (in their eyes) political stories of the day. The Daily Beast does a little of both: its cheat sheet sums up the biggest stories of the day, then lets readers vote them up or down on the cheat sheet page. These are your filter friends.

B is for Blogs
Blogs are all about linking to other stories, and so they are in a way aggregators themselves. But they produce more original content. This content, though, is just reflection on, jokes about, judgments of, etc., other sources’ original reportage or rumination. Paradigmatic example: Gawker links to a New York Times article and then says something snarky about it. These are your commentator friends.

C is for Content
Original content. Like a New York Times article. Or a conventional-wisdom-challenging opinion piece on Slate. These outlets require paying reporters or writers and then editing their work. Much harder than aggregating or commentating. These are your remaining doers and thinkers.

So, the apparent trend of C’s to A’s and B’s: Good or Bad thing?

The Slate article about The Beast’s launch said, in response to Brown’s claim that the site isn’t just an aggregator:

Brown protests too much. Aggregating carries no shame: Sites that exist primarily to link to other sites embody the Web in its purest form. Linking is the soul of the Web, and the companies that recognized this early have seen enormous success. (Yahoo was a thriving Web directory before it was a corporate tragedy.) The online-news business came to prominence on the back of outbound links—you may have first visited Matt Drudge’s page for unsourced Clinton administration gossip, but if you kept coming back, it was for his irresistible tabloid eye. …

Brown is correct that all aggregators are as much about what they omit as what they include. Omission, indeed, is their primary feature—you go to the Daily Beast or BuzzFeed or HuffPo because they’ve already scanned through the news, gossip, funny videos, games, and assorted ephemera that hits the Internet each day and will presumably give you just the good stuff. In this light, “Does the world need another aggregator?” is as silly a question as “Does the world need another map?” The answer is always yes—different people need different guides for different purposes. And as the Web expands, with more people posting ever-stupider stuff each day, we’re only going to need more, and better, aggregators.

So this view of web media says that you’re not losing your doing and thinking friends to aggregation; you’re just making NEW friends who are commenting on the adventures and meditations of your original ten. And since The Daily Beast is a brand new site, it does seem that we’re just making a new friend, getting a new map, or [insert your metaphor of choice].

But this optimism ignores our sneaking suspicion that there is only a finite amount of media out there to be distributed amongst aggregation, professional blogging, and content creation — there are only so many readers, so there is only so much money with which to pay a finite amount of writers, editors, etc. Put simply: you only have ten friends.

Instead, the conversion hypothesis is supported by other recent events. Take this story from Gawker about a prominent group of Alt Weeklies switching from doing original criticism to blogging and aggregation:

Eason wants his alt-weekly writers to spend all week writing for the web—being bloggers, in essence—and then, at the end of the week, somebody pulls the best bits from the website and puts them together to create the print edition.

Problem: These cities don’t need any more bloggers. There are already too many of us! What they need is more original content. Otherwise the bloggers just end up talking about each other, which is the most boring thing in the world. Shit, how much original content is left in Atlanta, anyhow? In DC, the City Paper has already stopped running cover story features. Is it raining pigs? I believe it is.

Again: we don’t need more bloggers. Content is really much more worthwhile. Invest in it. Any asshole can blog, shit. You have reporters. Use them!

Which is it? Will we, someday soon, lose our original content altogether?

Blogging and aggregation are obviously the dominant strategy for new and existing publications. They’re cheaper, easier, and very popular. Original reportage and criticism are harder and more expensive.

But I’d argue that it’s impossible for this trend to continue to its logical conclusion. Instead, there will have to be an equilibrium. If there’s nothing to blog about and aggregate, it will become worthwhile to shift (back) to original content creation, to fill the vacuum.

Still, this equilibrium might leave us with many fewer content creators than would be optimal for how collectively informed and thoughtful we are.

But we need content: it wouldn’t make sense just to have the “AB’s of Web Media,” would it?

What Do Troop Contributions Tell Us?

Friday, October 10th, 2008

I was intrigued today by an item from Details Magazine‘s “Know and Tell” page — basically, their attempt at a Harper’s Index.

The item was on contributions to presidential campaigns from “U.S. troops deployed abroad as of June 30, 2008, according to campaign-finance filings released in August.”

The three amounts shown in the Details “infographic” are:

– $60,642 for Obama
– $45,512 for Ron Paul
– $10,665 for John McCain

The clear implication is that troops abroad prefer Barack Obama to John McCain — and even prefer Ron Paul to John McCain. This is supposed to be surprising given the stereotypical alignment of the GOP and our armed forces and given the supposed Republican advantages in matters of defense.

But these implications are suspect.

Most importantly, these numbers reflect contributions from the primaries, not the general race. So really all we’re seeing is that servicemen and women overseas were more engaged in the race for the Democratic nomination than in the race for the Republican nomination. And, really, who wasn’t?

Moreover, there were many more serious candidates on the Republican side — McCain, Mike Huckabee, Mitt Romney, Rudy Giuliani, and, yes, Ron Paul — while the Democratic race was really a two-way contest, or three if you include John Edwards. So, it makes sense that contributions from trops for any given Republican candidate would’ve been smaller than for any given Democratic candidate.

An important number we’re missing is contributions to Hillary Clinton. If that number is near Obama’s receipts, than we know that these numbers really just reflect greater engagement with the Democratic race.

Also, let’s do a thought experiment: say these contributions were from after the nominees were determined. Would that mean that service-people actually preferred Obama to McCain?

I’d argue that the answer is no.

It’s possible of course that a majority of troops support Obama. But more giving to Obama than to McCain might only reflect a lot of giving from a still-minority segment of troops abroad who are Democrats or who support Obama.

How could this be? Maybe there are economic differences between troops who lean Democrat/Obama and troops that lean Republican/McCain, making the former group more able to contribute to the candidate of their choice.

Or, more interestingly, maybe, for Democratic service-people, contributing to their candidate is a salient way to express their Democratic identity in a milieu where the men and women around them all prefer Republicans.

In any case, that’s all thought-experiment speculation. What’s important is that these numbers don’t really tell us anything.

Saturday Night Live as Emperor’s Boy

Monday, October 6th, 2008

For the third week in a row, Saturday Night Live opened with a sketch featuring the brilliant Tina Fey as the less-than-brilliant Sarah Palin.

It’s getting to the point that we all wait breathlessly for Saturday night to see how they’ll lampoon the events of the week, so we’ll finally know exactly how to feel about them. It can be a difficult wait. Of all the emotions I felt watching the sketch — mostly mirth peppered with pangs of depression — the most palpable emotion was relief.

I was relieved to see the SNL sketch just like I was relieved to read the New York Times editorial waking us up to the reality of Palin’s poor performance — both gave voice to exactly what I was feeling about the debate, showing that not everyone was watching the win/win event the pundits saw.

Before that, I was frustrated by the media’s reflecting a reality that I wasn’t subscribing to, but I had no outlet for that unarticulated frustration until reading the Times editorial and then, come Saturday, watching SNL.

I bet a lot of other people were feeling the same frustration I was. But many more of those people probably saw the SNL sketch than read the Times editorial.

I think people are turning on SNL in record numbers not just because the sketches are funny, but because they fulfill an essential social role: The Fey-as-Palin phenomenon — now Palin wants to appear on SNL impersonating Tina Fey! — has me reminded just how powerful pop culture can be as our collective voice — in this case, establishing by Sunday morning the accepted narrative of the preceding week’s events; and, in general, reifying to society as a whole what each of us might be feeling and thinking.

Indeed, SNL was so powerful in shaping the narrative of media’s biased coverage of Obama during the primaries that Hillary Clinton actually started sounding like Amy Poehler’s parody.

I talked about this phenomenon already in one my Crimson columns, here, and identified it — with the help of Steven Pinker — as akin to the boy in the story of the emperor’s new clothes. When he laughs at the naked emperor, he is vocalizing the unarticulated knowledge of everyone too shocked and nervous to speak up about their leader. As Pinker writes in “The Stuff of Thought”:

Crucially, the boy was not telling a single person anything he didn’t already know. But his words still conveyed information. The information was that all the other people now knew the same thing that each one of them did.

SNL is speaking up, laughing, telling the emperor she has no clothes — and telling all of us that it’s okay to laugh along.

Repeal the Twelfth Amendment

Friday, October 3rd, 2008

The vice presidential debate last night was the closest thing to event television we’ve had since the American Idol finale, but I didn’t enjoy it nearly as much as I think many people did.

Beyond the unsettling post-debate punditry that gave Governor Palin props for speaking in semi-coherent sentences — even when those sentences had little content and blatantly ducked the questions asked, questions on topics about which she was clearly uninformed and inarticulate — I was put off by the very fact of the debate’s “event” status.

We kept hearing Brian Williams and the others say that this was the most highly anticipated vice presidential debate in modern times. (Of course, I’d be hard-pressed to think of a more pressing vice presidential debate in “pre-modern times,” whatever those might be.) But the vice presidency really should not be so important, and its candidates should not be so distracting. John Adams was right when he said that the vice presidency was “the most insignificant office that ever the invention of man contrived or his imagination conceived.”

Really, the essential role of the VP is to be able to assume full responsibility for governance in a time of national crisis (after the death or assassination of a sitting president). This idea was summed up expertly by Nate Silver of The New Republic.

It’s obscene how much time and energy the media — and the electorate — spend thinking and talking about the VP. The choice of a VP nominee is the ultimate horse-race, all about personalities and electoral maps, little about policy substance, and so of course it’s exciting to talk about around the water cooler. But the media ignores the solid social science that assures us that no one votes for a candidate because of their VP; when election day comes, it really doesn’t matter whose name is below the nominee’s.

So, the vice presidency isn’t really important, it’s distracting, and — as Joe Biden said of the current administration, in which the VP seems to hold more ideological sway over the course of policy than the president himself — it can be dangerous. What do we do?

The answer is actually elegantly simple. We can add meaning and purpose to the office of the vice presidency while also restoring it to its proper place as topic of minimal concern during elections and position of minimal importance during administrations.

How? Repeal the twelfth amendment.

If you’ve forgotten, that’s the amendment that makes us vote for a president and vice president as a ticket. In 1804, that system replaced the constitution’s original design that made the second-place finisher in a presidential election the vice president of the United States.

If we repealed the amendment now (with just a 2/3 vote in both houses of Congress and ratification by 38 states), then come January we’d have either President McCain and Vice President Obama or President Obama and Vice President McCain.

It might sound absurd when you first think about it, but after a little reflection it makes perfect sense:

Our winner-take-all electoral system is institutionally designed to breed rage. Just think: 49.99% of the electorate can vote for a presidential candidate and still see their man or woman lose — resigned to a simple Senate seat or, gasp, public life. Hell, a majority of voters can elect one candidate (Al Gore) and be left with nothing when the Supreme Court gets around to deciding the winner.

It’s no surprise that RAND reports rising partisanship or that there’s an increasing resentment that accompanies the in-party/out-party polarization: Gallup reports that only 26% of Americans have confidence in the presidency and a pathetic 13% in Congress.

With the twelfth amendment repealed, half the nation would still get to see their party represented in every administration, albeit with a role that would surely be diminished with respect to policy design and implementation. But that’s the role as it should be — the president has tons of advisors and staff; the vice president is symbolic and is only meant to be able to take over in a crisis.

Surely that’s what the founders intended: who better to be next in line to take over the presidency than the person who almost half of Americans think is ready to be president? Why allow someone plucked from obscurity, who gets no vetting by the American people, be — as they say — a heartbeat away?

Historically, the twelfth amendment is seen as having been a necessary solution to adapt the electoral system to the party politics that sprung up around 1800, surrounding the fierce race for president between John Adams and Thomas Jefferson. (Before that, George Washington had been elected unanimously — twice.)

I’ll spare you the full history, but suffice it so say that after Adams won and Jefferson became vice president, Jefferson’s ideological distance from Adams made him unwilling to play any role, and so he walked away from the office completely. By the time 1804 rolled around, the parties were using de facto tickets in which men clearly meant to be the vice presidents for the major candidates (again, Adams and Jefferson) had their names entered into consideration for president, with one elector on each side dropping his vote for the VP candidate to make the intended ticket finish one-two.

A historical fluke — someone forgot to drop their vote for Jefferson’s VP pick, Aaron Burr, and so the two men tied for the presidency until the House of Representatives finally anointed Jefferson — sprang Congress into motion to create the amendment which has ensured that such a snafu never happens again.

So, really, the amendment served only to reify the nascent partisanship in the country — not to address it. Rather than forcing us to throw representatives from different parties into office together and heal their wounds, we have an electoral system that gives a big stamp of approval to the fierce separation of parties that now seems unbridgeable. And, indeed, as Arthur Schlesinger so clearly articulated in 1974:

The Twelfth Amendment sent the vice presidency into prompt decline. The first two Vice Presidents had moved on directly to the presidency. After the amendment was enacted, the vice presidency became a resting place for mediocrities.

What would change for the worse if we got rid of the twelfth amendment? Not much, I think.

We wouldn’t have to think about the veepstakes, and we could focus on the men and women at the top of the ticket. We’d know that no party would suffer a total loss on election day — with their voices totally shut out from government — because the nominee from the losing party would still hold office.

Sure, there’d be pundit chatter about how McCain and/or Obama is really more suited to the vice presidency because of X, Y, or Z — but likely that wouldn’t change anyone’s mind about who they wanted the true leader of the nation to be. The VP could become a national symbol for bipartisanship, put in charge of non-partisan initiatives that they have expertise in — for example, VP Obama could rally youth to service, while VP McCain could be the face of services for veterans.

Of course, it would be a job that no one really wanted. But, that’s how it’s been for over two hundred years.